Far away, still close
You can't be there every day, but you can make sure the right people and plans are. A little set-up now means fewer late-night phone calls later.
A circle of support
People nearby who can pop in, notice things and call you.
A regular rhythm
Calls, visits and help on set days, so changes stand out.
Information in one place
Contacts, medicines and documents you can find in a hurry.
Help they're happy with
Support your parent chooses, not just support you arrange.
Start with a conversation
Ask what they'd like help with, and who they'd be comfortable having around. Plans they've shaped are plans they'll stick with.
The people close by
Think of everyone who's already part of their week, and how each could help a little.
- A neighbour or friend who can check in and has your number.
- A spare key with someone trusted, or a key safe by the door.
- Their GP and pharmacist know who to contact in the family.
- Permission in place for the GP to talk with you, if your parent agrees.
- A regular helper for the things that slip: shopping, meals, appointments.
- Someone who can step in at short notice if your parent is unwell.
Staying in the loop between visits
- A regular call on the same day and time each week.
- Video calls, once the phone or tablet is set up and they're confident using it.
- A shared family calendar for appointments and who's visiting when.
What to look at when you're there
Visits home are precious, and they're also your best chance to see how things are really going.
- The fridge and pantry: fresh food, or mostly out of date?
- The mail: bills paid, or a pile building up?
- Medicines: being taken, and enough left?
- The house: tidy as they like it, and safe to move around?
- Their mood: still seeing friends and getting out?
